She sat there and blamed the baby mother for keeping him away from the child.This dude didnt move a muscle to interact with his daughter. I can even remember a situation where one of my friends was dating a guy who had not seen his child in years. They will sit there and lie and say well, she won't let him see the kids or he can't get in touch with them, he did the best he could etc. It has only been in recent years that people have started speaking up about it and immediately we have so many people who still defend those deadbeats. I think some of these women are having these children because they feel that it is the only way that they will get a modicum of respect in the community AKA I am somebody's mama.įinally, black American culture has normalized absentee fathers. People are using these kids to fill their own emotional holes too, but that's another thread. There's cultural pressure tied in to that too. The men dont want to marry because they dont HAVE to. I also believe that some of these women believe that they will never find a husband so the children become a substitute for that family that they desire. We actually encourage black women to make poor choices such as having children out of wedlock with a boyfriend or someone that they don't know well just for the sake of having children. Black Culture is responsible for much of this. I think this a bit more complex than choose better.
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